I live in zone 9, very dry. We had a crazy winter 2 years ago causing my new neighbor to cut down their oleanders to our 5 ft fence height and now we can see everything each other does. So I decided it is time to put in my own shrubs. Anyway where can I get some affordable palms that are hardy to this dry area? Yes I can water. I don't want huge palms I actually like those skinny leaf palms with out the spikes, but don't know what they are called. Any suggesttions please?
What kind of palm trees can I plant for privacy in Zone 9 California Desert?
Better to put nice quality lemon, lime and orange plants in close proximity and trim them will serve your purpose as well you will have the best fruits for your good health and longevity, tree ripe is different then the store ripe and insecticide sprayed fruit
Reply:Thank you. Report It
Reply:oleanders are very rapid growing plants so they should be back to there original hight in like 2-3 years
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Tuesday, January 24, 2012
What's the best lowgrowing shrub that wont kill my dog if she eats it?
I have a chocolate lab that tries to eat everything new in the yard, and I want to landscape in spite of her. Oleanders, elephant ears, azaleas, berry-bearing hollys are all out. What else is there?
What's the best lowgrowing shrub that wont kill my dog if she eats it?
Since "Granny" is dissing everyone, it's interesting that she lists my resource!
This list is from a pet information site and a reliable source for safety. A list of "do not" plants that are poisonous will not cover plants that are not pet friendly. All of the plants on THIS list are not poisonous to pets! Check out my source at the bottom for more great info on pet friendly yards!!
A
Achira
Acorn squash
African violet
Algaroba
Aluminum plant
Alumroot
American rubber
Anthericum comosum
Antirrhinum multiflorum
Arabian gentian
Aregelia
Artillery plant
Aspidium falcatum
Aubepine
Autumn olive
B
Bachelors buttons
Ball fern
Bamboo
Bamboo palm
Bamboo vine
Banana
Banana squash
Begonia species
Belmore sentry palm
Big shellbark hickory
Bitter pecan
Bitternut
Black haw
Black hawthorn
Blaspheme vine
Bloodleaf
Blooming sally
Bluebottle
Blue bead
Blue daisy
Blue echeveria
Blue-*****
Blue-eyed daisy
Blunt leaf peperomia
Blushing bromeliad
Bold sword fern
Boston fern
Bottlebrush
Bottle Palm
Brazilian orchid
Bride's bonnet
Bristly greenbrier
Broom hickory
Brodiaea pulchella
Butterfly ginger
Butterfly iris
Bullbrier
Bur gourd
Burro's tail
Buttercup squash
Butterfly squash
C
Caeroba
Calathea insignis
Calthea lancifolia
California pitcher plant
Callistemon bradyandrus
Callistemon viminalis
Callistemon citrinus
Calochortus nuttalli
Camellia
Canada hemlock
Canary date palm
Candle plant
Candycorn plant
Canna lily
Cantebury-bell
Cape jasmine
Cape primrose
Carob
Carob tree
Caroba
Carobinha
Carolina hemlock
Carrion flower
Carrot flower
Carrot fern
Casaba melon
Cast Iron plant
Cat brier
Cat ear
Cattleya labiata
Celosia globosa
Celosia plumosa
Celosia spicata
Chamaedorean
Chaparral
Chenille plant
Chestnut
Chicken-gizzard
Chickens and hens
Chin-lao-shu
China aster
China root
Chinese plumbago
Chlorophytum
Chlorophytum bechetii
Chocolate soldier
Christmas dagger
Christmas palm
Christmas orchid
Cinnamon
Cinquefoil
Cirrhopetalum
Clearweed
Cliff brake
Cocks comb
Cocktail orchid
Collinia elegans
Color-band
Columnar
Common camellia
Common catbrier
Common garden canna
Common greenbrier
Common snapdragon
Common staghorn fern
Confederate jasmine
Coolwort
Copperlead
Copper rose
Coralardisia
Coral bells
Coralberry
Cornflower
Crape myrtle
Crataegus phaenopyrum
Crataegus spp.
Creeping charlie
Creeping gloxinia
Creeping mahonia
Creeping pilea
Creeping rubus
Creeping zinnia
Crepe myrtle
Crimson bottlebush
Crimson cup
Crisped feather fern
Crossandra
Cucumber
Cushon aloe
Cushion moss
Cyrtudeira reptans
D
Dainty
Dainty rabbits-foot fern
Dallas fern
Dancing doll orchid
Davallia bullata mariessi
Davallia trichomanoides
Desert trumpet
Dichelostemma
Dichorisandra reginae
Dinteranthus vanzylii
Duffii fern
Duffy fern
Dwarf date palm
Dwarf feather fern
Dwarf palm
Dwarf Rose-Stripe Star
Dwarf royal palm
Dwarf whitman fern
E
Earth star
Easter cattleya
Easter daisy
Easter lily cactus
Easter orchid
Edible banana
Elephant-Ear Begonia
Emerald ripple peperomia
English hawthorn
Epidendrum atropurpeum
Epidendrum ibaguense
Epidendrum
Episcia spp.
F
False aralia
Fairy fountain
Fan tufted palm
Feather fern
Feathered amaranth
Fiery reed orchid
Fig leaf gourd
Figleaf palm
Fingernail plant
Fire weed
Fish tail fern
Flame african violet
Flame of the woods
Flame violet
Florida butter-fly orchid
Fluffy ruffles
Forster sentry palm
Fortunes palm
Freckle face
Friendship plant
Frosty
G
Garden marigold
Garden snapdragon
German violet
Gherkins
Ghost leafless orchid
Ghost plant
Giant aster
Giant holly fern
Giant white inch plant
Gibasis geniculata
Globe thistle
Gloxinia
Gold bloom
Gold-fish plant
Golden bells
Golden lace orchid
Golden shower orchid
Good luck palm
Grape hyacinth
Grape Ivy
Great willow herb
Green ripple peperomia
Greenbrier
H
Hagbrier
Hardy baby tears
Hardy gloxinia
Haws
Haws apple
Haworthia
Hawthorn
Hedgehog gourd
Hellfetter
Hemlock tree
Hen and chickens fern
Hens and chickens
Hickory
Hindu rope plant
Holligold
Holly fern
Hollyhock
Honey locust
Honey plant
Honeydew melons
Honeysuckle fuchsia
Hookera pulchella
Horse brier
Hoya carnosa 'exotica'
Hoya carnosa 'krinkle'
Hoya carnosa 'variegata'
Hoya 'Mauna Loa'
Hubbard squash
Hypocyrta spp.
I
Ice plant
Imbricata sword fern
Irish moss
Iron cross begonia
Iron tree
Ivy peperomia
Ivy-leaf peperomia
J
Jackson brier
Jacob's ladder
Japanese aralia
Japanese holly fern
Japanese moss
Japanese pittosporum
Jasmine
Jewel orchid
Joseph's coat
Jungle geranium
K
Kaempferis
Kahali ginger
Kenilworth ivy
Kentia palm
Kenya palm
Kenya violet
Kharoub
King nut
King of the forest
King and queen fern
Kuang-yen- pa-hsieh
L
Lace flower vine
Lace orchid
Ladies ear drops
Lady lou
Lady palm
Lagerstroemia indica
Lance Pleumele
Large
Lady Palm
Laurel-leaved greenbrier
Leather peperomia
Leng-fen tu'an
Leopard lily
Leopard orchid
Lesser snapdragon
Lily of the valley orchid
Linden
Lipstick plant
Little zebra plant
Little fantasy peperomia
Living rock cactus
Living stones
Locust pods
Lou-lang-t'ou
Luther
M
Madagascar jasmine
Magnolia bush
Mahonia aquifolium
Malabar gourd
Malaysian dracaema
Manila palm
Mapleleaf begonia
Maranta
Marbled fingernail
Mariposa lily
Maroon
Mary-bud
Measles plant
Melons
Metallic peperomia
Metallic leaf begonia
Mexican firecracker
Mexican rosettes
Mexican snowballs
Miniature date palm
Minature fish tail
Minature maranta
Minature marble plant
Mistletoe cactus
Mockernut hickory
Mosaic plant
Mosiac vase
Moss agate
Moss campion
Moss fern
Moss phlox
Moss rose
Mossy campion
Mother fern
Mother spleenwort
Mother of pearl
Mountain camellia
Mountain grape
Mulberry bush greenbrier
Mulberry tree
Musa paradisiaca
Muscari armeniacum
Muscari spp.
Muskmellon
N
Narrow leafed pleomele
Natal plum
Neanthe bella palm
Nematanthus spp.
Neanthebella
Neoregelia
Nephrolepsis
Nerve plant
New silver and bronze
Night blooming cereus
O
Odontoglossum spp.
Old man cactus
Old world orchid
Orange star
Oregon grape
Ossifragi vase
P
Paddys wig
Painted lady
Palm lily
Pampus grass
Panamiga
Pansy orchid
Paradise palm
Parlor palm
Parlor plant
Parsley fern
Peace begonia
Peacock plant
Pearl plant
Pearly dots
Peperomia hederifolia
Peperomia peltifolia
Peperomia rotundifolia
Peperomia sandersii
Pepper face
Persian violet
Pheasant plant
Piggy back plant
Pigmy date palm
Pignut
Pignut hickory
Pilea microphylla
Pilea mucosa
Pink Brocade
Pink Pearl
Pink polka dot plant
Pink starlite
Pirliteiro
Pitaya
Plantanus orientalis
Plantanus occidentalis
Platinum peperomia
Platycerium alicicorne
Plumbago larpentiae
Plush plant
Polka dot plant
Polystichum falcatum
Pony tail
Porcelain flower
Pot marigold
Prairie lily
Prairie snowball
Prayer plant
Prickly bottlebrush
Prostrate coleus
Purple baby tears
Purple passion vine
Purple waffle plant
Purpleosier willow
Q
Queen's spiderwort
Queencup
Queens spiderwort
Queensland arrowroot
R
Rabbits foot fern
Rainbow orchid
Red african violet
Red berried greenbrier
Red edge peperomia
Red hawthorne
Red palm lily
Red veined prayer
Reed palm
Resurrection lily
Rex begonia
Rhynchophorum
Ribbon plant (Chlorophytum comosum)
Roosevelt fern
Royal velvet plant
Rubber plant, baby
Russian olive
S
Saffron spike zebra
Saint Bernards lily
Sand lily
Sand verbena
Satin pellionia
Sawbrier
Scabious
Scarborough lily
Scarlet orchid
Scarlet sage
Sego lily
Shagbark hickory
Shan ku'ei-lai
Shellbark hickory
Shiny leaf smilax
Shrimp cactus
Silver bell
Silver berry
Silver heart
Silver-leaf peperomia
Silver nerve plant
Silver pink vine
Silver star
Silver table fern
Silver tree anamiga
Slender deutzia
Small fruited hickory
Smilax tamnoides vas
Speckled wood lily
Spice orchid
Spider ivy
Spider plant
Spotted laurel
Squarenut
Squirrels foot fern
Star jasmine
Star lily
Star plant
Star tulip
Star window plant
Strawberry
Striped blushing
Sugar pods
Sulfur flower
Summer hyacinth
Swedish ivy
Sweetheart hoya
Sweetheart peperomia
Sweet william
Sword fern
T
Tahitian bridal veil
Tailed orchid
Tall feather fern
Tall mahonia
Teasel gourd
Texas sage
Thea japonica
Thimble cactus
Thorn apple
Ti hu-ling
Tiger orchid
Toad spotted cactus
Torch lily
Tous-les-mois
Trailing peperomia
Tree cactus
Tree gloxinia
Tropical moss
True cantalope
Tu fu-ling
Tulip poplar
Tulip tree
Turban squash
Turf lily
U
Umbrella plant
Urbinia agavoides
Usambara violet
V
Variegated laurel
Variegated oval leaf peperomia
Variegated philodendron leaf
Variegated wandering jew
Variegated wax plant
Velvet plant
Venus fly trap
Verona fern
Verona lace fern
Vining peperomia
Violet slipper gloxinia
W
Waffle plant
Walking anthericum
Washington hawthorn
Water hickory
Watermelon begonia
Watermelon peperomia
Watermelon pilea
Wax plant
Wax rosette
Weeping bottlebrush
Weeping sergeant hemlock
Weisdornbluten
West indian gherkin
Western sword
White ginger
White edged swedish ivy
White heart hickory
Whitman fern
Wild buckwheat
Wild buckwheat
Wild hyacinth
Wild lantana
Wild sarsaparilla
Wild strawberry
Willow herb
Windmill palm
Winter cattleya
Withered snapdragon
Woolflower
Y
Yellow bloodleaf
Yellow-flowered gourd
Yerba linda
Z
Zebra haworthia
Zebra plant
Zinnia sp.
Zucchini squash
Check out my source for more info on dog friendly yards:
Reply:It will probably be easier to read the list of what NOT to plant and then go from there.
ASPCA
Animal Poison Control Center
Toxic PlantsThis list contains plants that have been reported as having systemic effects on animals and/or intense effects on the gastrointestinal tract.
http://www.aspca.org/site/PageServer?pag...
***************NOTE**************
Non Poisonous Plants for Dogs and Cats
http://www.petfriendlyhouse.com/informat...
Don't take the advice of any of the experts in this category in Yahoo! Answers sometimes they just put an answer.
Follow the directions of the real experts above.
Reply:Try something hardy and WOODY. Also, don't let your dog outside too much. Get it to a park. Grass plants can't hurt either.
Reply:boxwood and is easily shaped
What's the best lowgrowing shrub that wont kill my dog if she eats it?
Since "Granny" is dissing everyone, it's interesting that she lists my resource!
This list is from a pet information site and a reliable source for safety. A list of "do not" plants that are poisonous will not cover plants that are not pet friendly. All of the plants on THIS list are not poisonous to pets! Check out my source at the bottom for more great info on pet friendly yards!!
A
Achira
Acorn squash
African violet
Algaroba
Aluminum plant
Alumroot
American rubber
Anthericum comosum
Antirrhinum multiflorum
Arabian gentian
Aregelia
Artillery plant
Aspidium falcatum
Aubepine
Autumn olive
B
Bachelors buttons
Ball fern
Bamboo
Bamboo palm
Bamboo vine
Banana
Banana squash
Begonia species
Belmore sentry palm
Big shellbark hickory
Bitter pecan
Bitternut
Black haw
Black hawthorn
Blaspheme vine
Bloodleaf
Blooming sally
Bluebottle
Blue bead
Blue daisy
Blue echeveria
Blue-*****
Blue-eyed daisy
Blunt leaf peperomia
Blushing bromeliad
Bold sword fern
Boston fern
Bottlebrush
Bottle Palm
Brazilian orchid
Bride's bonnet
Bristly greenbrier
Broom hickory
Brodiaea pulchella
Butterfly ginger
Butterfly iris
Bullbrier
Bur gourd
Burro's tail
Buttercup squash
Butterfly squash
C
Caeroba
Calathea insignis
Calthea lancifolia
California pitcher plant
Callistemon bradyandrus
Callistemon viminalis
Callistemon citrinus
Calochortus nuttalli
Camellia
Canada hemlock
Canary date palm
Candle plant
Candycorn plant
Canna lily
Cantebury-bell
Cape jasmine
Cape primrose
Carob
Carob tree
Caroba
Carobinha
Carolina hemlock
Carrion flower
Carrot flower
Carrot fern
Casaba melon
Cast Iron plant
Cat brier
Cat ear
Cattleya labiata
Celosia globosa
Celosia plumosa
Celosia spicata
Chamaedorean
Chaparral
Chenille plant
Chestnut
Chicken-gizzard
Chickens and hens
Chin-lao-shu
China aster
China root
Chinese plumbago
Chlorophytum
Chlorophytum bechetii
Chocolate soldier
Christmas dagger
Christmas palm
Christmas orchid
Cinnamon
Cinquefoil
Cirrhopetalum
Clearweed
Cliff brake
Cocks comb
Cocktail orchid
Collinia elegans
Color-band
Columnar
Common camellia
Common catbrier
Common garden canna
Common greenbrier
Common snapdragon
Common staghorn fern
Confederate jasmine
Coolwort
Copperlead
Copper rose
Coralardisia
Coral bells
Coralberry
Cornflower
Crape myrtle
Crataegus phaenopyrum
Crataegus spp.
Creeping charlie
Creeping gloxinia
Creeping mahonia
Creeping pilea
Creeping rubus
Creeping zinnia
Crepe myrtle
Crimson bottlebush
Crimson cup
Crisped feather fern
Crossandra
Cucumber
Cushon aloe
Cushion moss
Cyrtudeira reptans
D
Dainty
Dainty rabbits-foot fern
Dallas fern
Dancing doll orchid
Davallia bullata mariessi
Davallia trichomanoides
Desert trumpet
Dichelostemma
Dichorisandra reginae
Dinteranthus vanzylii
Duffii fern
Duffy fern
Dwarf date palm
Dwarf feather fern
Dwarf palm
Dwarf Rose-Stripe Star
Dwarf royal palm
Dwarf whitman fern
E
Earth star
Easter cattleya
Easter daisy
Easter lily cactus
Easter orchid
Edible banana
Elephant-Ear Begonia
Emerald ripple peperomia
English hawthorn
Epidendrum atropurpeum
Epidendrum ibaguense
Epidendrum
Episcia spp.
F
False aralia
Fairy fountain
Fan tufted palm
Feather fern
Feathered amaranth
Fiery reed orchid
Fig leaf gourd
Figleaf palm
Fingernail plant
Fire weed
Fish tail fern
Flame african violet
Flame of the woods
Flame violet
Florida butter-fly orchid
Fluffy ruffles
Forster sentry palm
Fortunes palm
Freckle face
Friendship plant
Frosty
G
Garden marigold
Garden snapdragon
German violet
Gherkins
Ghost leafless orchid
Ghost plant
Giant aster
Giant holly fern
Giant white inch plant
Gibasis geniculata
Globe thistle
Gloxinia
Gold bloom
Gold-fish plant
Golden bells
Golden lace orchid
Golden shower orchid
Good luck palm
Grape hyacinth
Grape Ivy
Great willow herb
Green ripple peperomia
Greenbrier
H
Hagbrier
Hardy baby tears
Hardy gloxinia
Haws
Haws apple
Haworthia
Hawthorn
Hedgehog gourd
Hellfetter
Hemlock tree
Hen and chickens fern
Hens and chickens
Hickory
Hindu rope plant
Holligold
Holly fern
Hollyhock
Honey locust
Honey plant
Honeydew melons
Honeysuckle fuchsia
Hookera pulchella
Horse brier
Hoya carnosa 'exotica'
Hoya carnosa 'krinkle'
Hoya carnosa 'variegata'
Hoya 'Mauna Loa'
Hubbard squash
Hypocyrta spp.
I
Ice plant
Imbricata sword fern
Irish moss
Iron cross begonia
Iron tree
Ivy peperomia
Ivy-leaf peperomia
J
Jackson brier
Jacob's ladder
Japanese aralia
Japanese holly fern
Japanese moss
Japanese pittosporum
Jasmine
Jewel orchid
Joseph's coat
Jungle geranium
K
Kaempferis
Kahali ginger
Kenilworth ivy
Kentia palm
Kenya palm
Kenya violet
Kharoub
King nut
King of the forest
King and queen fern
Kuang-yen- pa-hsieh
L
Lace flower vine
Lace orchid
Ladies ear drops
Lady lou
Lady palm
Lagerstroemia indica
Lance Pleumele
Large
Lady Palm
Laurel-leaved greenbrier
Leather peperomia
Leng-fen tu'an
Leopard lily
Leopard orchid
Lesser snapdragon
Lily of the valley orchid
Linden
Lipstick plant
Little zebra plant
Little fantasy peperomia
Living rock cactus
Living stones
Locust pods
Lou-lang-t'ou
Luther
M
Madagascar jasmine
Magnolia bush
Mahonia aquifolium
Malabar gourd
Malaysian dracaema
Manila palm
Mapleleaf begonia
Maranta
Marbled fingernail
Mariposa lily
Maroon
Mary-bud
Measles plant
Melons
Metallic peperomia
Metallic leaf begonia
Mexican firecracker
Mexican rosettes
Mexican snowballs
Miniature date palm
Minature fish tail
Minature maranta
Minature marble plant
Mistletoe cactus
Mockernut hickory
Mosaic plant
Mosiac vase
Moss agate
Moss campion
Moss fern
Moss phlox
Moss rose
Mossy campion
Mother fern
Mother spleenwort
Mother of pearl
Mountain camellia
Mountain grape
Mulberry bush greenbrier
Mulberry tree
Musa paradisiaca
Muscari armeniacum
Muscari spp.
Muskmellon
N
Narrow leafed pleomele
Natal plum
Neanthe bella palm
Nematanthus spp.
Neanthebella
Neoregelia
Nephrolepsis
Nerve plant
New silver and bronze
Night blooming cereus
O
Odontoglossum spp.
Old man cactus
Old world orchid
Orange star
Oregon grape
Ossifragi vase
P
Paddys wig
Painted lady
Palm lily
Pampus grass
Panamiga
Pansy orchid
Paradise palm
Parlor palm
Parlor plant
Parsley fern
Peace begonia
Peacock plant
Pearl plant
Pearly dots
Peperomia hederifolia
Peperomia peltifolia
Peperomia rotundifolia
Peperomia sandersii
Pepper face
Persian violet
Pheasant plant
Piggy back plant
Pigmy date palm
Pignut
Pignut hickory
Pilea microphylla
Pilea mucosa
Pink Brocade
Pink Pearl
Pink polka dot plant
Pink starlite
Pirliteiro
Pitaya
Plantanus orientalis
Plantanus occidentalis
Platinum peperomia
Platycerium alicicorne
Plumbago larpentiae
Plush plant
Polka dot plant
Polystichum falcatum
Pony tail
Porcelain flower
Pot marigold
Prairie lily
Prairie snowball
Prayer plant
Prickly bottlebrush
Prostrate coleus
Purple baby tears
Purple passion vine
Purple waffle plant
Purpleosier willow
Q
Queen's spiderwort
Queencup
Queens spiderwort
Queensland arrowroot
R
Rabbits foot fern
Rainbow orchid
Red african violet
Red berried greenbrier
Red edge peperomia
Red hawthorne
Red palm lily
Red veined prayer
Reed palm
Resurrection lily
Rex begonia
Rhynchophorum
Ribbon plant (Chlorophytum comosum)
Roosevelt fern
Royal velvet plant
Rubber plant, baby
Russian olive
S
Saffron spike zebra
Saint Bernards lily
Sand lily
Sand verbena
Satin pellionia
Sawbrier
Scabious
Scarborough lily
Scarlet orchid
Scarlet sage
Sego lily
Shagbark hickory
Shan ku'ei-lai
Shellbark hickory
Shiny leaf smilax
Shrimp cactus
Silver bell
Silver berry
Silver heart
Silver-leaf peperomia
Silver nerve plant
Silver pink vine
Silver star
Silver table fern
Silver tree anamiga
Slender deutzia
Small fruited hickory
Smilax tamnoides vas
Speckled wood lily
Spice orchid
Spider ivy
Spider plant
Spotted laurel
Squarenut
Squirrels foot fern
Star jasmine
Star lily
Star plant
Star tulip
Star window plant
Strawberry
Striped blushing
Sugar pods
Sulfur flower
Summer hyacinth
Swedish ivy
Sweetheart hoya
Sweetheart peperomia
Sweet william
Sword fern
T
Tahitian bridal veil
Tailed orchid
Tall feather fern
Tall mahonia
Teasel gourd
Texas sage
Thea japonica
Thimble cactus
Thorn apple
Ti hu-ling
Tiger orchid
Toad spotted cactus
Torch lily
Tous-les-mois
Trailing peperomia
Tree cactus
Tree gloxinia
Tropical moss
True cantalope
Tu fu-ling
Tulip poplar
Tulip tree
Turban squash
Turf lily
U
Umbrella plant
Urbinia agavoides
Usambara violet
V
Variegated laurel
Variegated oval leaf peperomia
Variegated philodendron leaf
Variegated wandering jew
Variegated wax plant
Velvet plant
Venus fly trap
Verona fern
Verona lace fern
Vining peperomia
Violet slipper gloxinia
W
Waffle plant
Walking anthericum
Washington hawthorn
Water hickory
Watermelon begonia
Watermelon peperomia
Watermelon pilea
Wax plant
Wax rosette
Weeping bottlebrush
Weeping sergeant hemlock
Weisdornbluten
West indian gherkin
Western sword
White ginger
White edged swedish ivy
White heart hickory
Whitman fern
Wild buckwheat
Wild buckwheat
Wild hyacinth
Wild lantana
Wild sarsaparilla
Wild strawberry
Willow herb
Windmill palm
Winter cattleya
Withered snapdragon
Woolflower
Y
Yellow bloodleaf
Yellow-flowered gourd
Yerba linda
Z
Zebra haworthia
Zebra plant
Zinnia sp.
Zucchini squash
Check out my source for more info on dog friendly yards:
Reply:It will probably be easier to read the list of what NOT to plant and then go from there.
ASPCA
Animal Poison Control Center
Toxic PlantsThis list contains plants that have been reported as having systemic effects on animals and/or intense effects on the gastrointestinal tract.
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Non Poisonous Plants for Dogs and Cats
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Don't take the advice of any of the experts in this category in Yahoo! Answers sometimes they just put an answer.
Follow the directions of the real experts above.
Reply:Try something hardy and WOODY. Also, don't let your dog outside too much. Get it to a park. Grass plants can't hurt either.
Reply:boxwood and is easily shaped
Survey: Bailing wire and duct tape or protractor and contractor?
Bailing wire and duct tape or protractor and contractor
NASCAR or Formula One
Exotic Palms or Oleanders
Roses or Lillis
Ice road truckers and Deadliest Catch or House and Bones
BBQ Ribs or Duck Ala Ronge
Skate boards or Mopeds
Laptop or Desktop
Apple or Dell or Sony
Freestyle or Precise
Read directions or don't usually need them
Hot dogs and hamburgers or Thai, Italian and Mexican food
Very clean house or looks lived in
White walls or full of color
The big chair of the couch
Nickelback or Beatles
Survey: Bailing wire and duct tape or protractor and contractor?
anything with duct tape
nascar
oleanders
roses
deadliest catch
ribs
mopeds
laptop
dell
precise
don't need them
dogs and burgers
lived in
white with lots of stuff on them
big ol soft couch
beatles
Reply:Protractor and contractor
Formula One
Oleander
Roses
House and Bones
Duck Ala Ronge
Mopeds
Laptop with a docking port, full size monitor, and ergonomic keyboard for when I'm home.
Dell
Freestyle
Read directions
Hamburgers and Italian and Mexican food...sorry, you can keep the hot dogs and Thai food.
Very clean house as long as I don't have to clean it.
Full Color
The big chair
Beatles
Reply:bailing wire and duct tape
NASCAR
exotic palms
lillis
House and bones
BBQ Ribs... definately
skateboards
laptop
dell
freestyle
don't read directions... just wing it
Thai, ITALIAN, and mexican food... i LOVE Italian food
looks lived in ... unless you wanna clean it for me :)
COLOR!!!!! ...white is tooo boring
The big chair ... mine is actually quite comfy( squishy leather)
Nickelback ... but the Beatles are good too...
Reply:Bailing wire and duct tape or protractor and contractor...contractor
NASCAR or Formula One... f/o
Exotic Palms or Oleanders... oleanders
Roses or Lillis.... roses
Ice road truckers and Deadliest Catch or House and Bones....House no bones
BBQ Ribs or Duck Ala Ronge...... BBQ
Skate boards or Mopeds .... boards
Laptop or Desktop.... desk
Apple or Dell or Sony.... Sony
Freestyle or Precise.... precise
Read directions or don't usually need them..... read, eventually
Hot dogs and hamburgers or Thai, Italian and Mexican food ....Mexican
Very clean house or looks lived in.... lived in
White walls or full of color.... white
The big chair of the couch ..... big chair
Nickelback or Beatles.... Beatles
Reply:1) Protrator and contractor, hopefully hot looking.
2) Nascar
3) Exotic Palms
4)Roses
5) House and Bones
6) BBq Ribs
7) Moped
8) Desktop
9) Dell
10) Freestyle
11) Thai, Italian, and Mexican
12) Looks lived in
13) Different colors, soothing
14) The couch
15) Beatles
LMAO
Reply:Bailing wire and duct tape
NASCAR
Exotic Palms
Roses
House and Bones
BBQ Ribs
Mopeds
Laptop
Dell
Precise
Read directions (I read, hubby THINKS he doesn't need them) - must be why we stay lost in a new city
Hot dogs and hamburgers
looks lived in
full of color
The big chair
Beatles
Reply:Answers to questions:
Bailing wire and duct tape
NASCAR
Exotic Palms
Neither - Mimosa and Honeysuckle!
House and Bones
BBQ Ribs
Mopeds
Desktop
Neither - HP
Freestyle
don't usually need them
Hot dogs and hamburgers
looks lived in
full of color
The big chair
Beatles
Reply:Protractor and contractor
Formula One
Oleanders (have a bunch in the yard)
Roses
House %26amp; Bones
BBQ Ribs
Mopeds
Desktop
Dell
Freestyle
Don't read directions unless desperate
Hot dogs and hamburgers
Looks lived in
White walls
Big chair
Nickelback
Reply:I stopped after graduating from college to become a teacher. So, I'll accept bailing wire and duct tape any day
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NASCAR or Formula One
Exotic Palms or Oleanders
Roses or Lillis
Ice road truckers and Deadliest Catch or House and Bones
BBQ Ribs or Duck Ala Ronge
Skate boards or Mopeds
Laptop or Desktop
Apple or Dell or Sony
Freestyle or Precise
Read directions or don't usually need them
Hot dogs and hamburgers or Thai, Italian and Mexican food
Very clean house or looks lived in
White walls or full of color
The big chair of the couch
Nickelback or Beatles
Survey: Bailing wire and duct tape or protractor and contractor?
anything with duct tape
nascar
oleanders
roses
deadliest catch
ribs
mopeds
laptop
dell
precise
don't need them
dogs and burgers
lived in
white with lots of stuff on them
big ol soft couch
beatles
Reply:Protractor and contractor
Formula One
Oleander
Roses
House and Bones
Duck Ala Ronge
Mopeds
Laptop with a docking port, full size monitor, and ergonomic keyboard for when I'm home.
Dell
Freestyle
Read directions
Hamburgers and Italian and Mexican food...sorry, you can keep the hot dogs and Thai food.
Very clean house as long as I don't have to clean it.
Full Color
The big chair
Beatles
Reply:bailing wire and duct tape
NASCAR
exotic palms
lillis
House and bones
BBQ Ribs... definately
skateboards
laptop
dell
freestyle
don't read directions... just wing it
Thai, ITALIAN, and mexican food... i LOVE Italian food
looks lived in ... unless you wanna clean it for me :)
COLOR!!!!! ...white is tooo boring
The big chair ... mine is actually quite comfy( squishy leather)
Nickelback ... but the Beatles are good too...
Reply:Bailing wire and duct tape or protractor and contractor...contractor
NASCAR or Formula One... f/o
Exotic Palms or Oleanders... oleanders
Roses or Lillis.... roses
Ice road truckers and Deadliest Catch or House and Bones....House no bones
BBQ Ribs or Duck Ala Ronge...... BBQ
Skate boards or Mopeds .... boards
Laptop or Desktop.... desk
Apple or Dell or Sony.... Sony
Freestyle or Precise.... precise
Read directions or don't usually need them..... read, eventually
Hot dogs and hamburgers or Thai, Italian and Mexican food ....Mexican
Very clean house or looks lived in.... lived in
White walls or full of color.... white
The big chair of the couch ..... big chair
Nickelback or Beatles.... Beatles
Reply:1) Protrator and contractor, hopefully hot looking.
2) Nascar
3) Exotic Palms
4)Roses
5) House and Bones
6) BBq Ribs
7) Moped
8) Desktop
9) Dell
10) Freestyle
11) Thai, Italian, and Mexican
12) Looks lived in
13) Different colors, soothing
14) The couch
15) Beatles
LMAO
Reply:Bailing wire and duct tape
NASCAR
Exotic Palms
Roses
House and Bones
BBQ Ribs
Mopeds
Laptop
Dell
Precise
Read directions (I read, hubby THINKS he doesn't need them) - must be why we stay lost in a new city
Hot dogs and hamburgers
looks lived in
full of color
The big chair
Beatles
Reply:Answers to questions:
Bailing wire and duct tape
NASCAR
Exotic Palms
Neither - Mimosa and Honeysuckle!
House and Bones
BBQ Ribs
Mopeds
Desktop
Neither - HP
Freestyle
don't usually need them
Hot dogs and hamburgers
looks lived in
full of color
The big chair
Beatles
Reply:Protractor and contractor
Formula One
Oleanders (have a bunch in the yard)
Roses
House %26amp; Bones
BBQ Ribs
Mopeds
Desktop
Dell
Freestyle
Don't read directions unless desperate
Hot dogs and hamburgers
Looks lived in
White walls
Big chair
Nickelback
Reply:I stopped after graduating from college to become a teacher. So, I'll accept bailing wire and duct tape any day
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WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE PERFUME/COLOGNE???? I just bought Azuree Soleil tonight and it smells great.....yours?
I just bought some new perfumes.... one of them is azuree soleil it kind of smelles like oleanders......its made by estee lauder. Other perfumes I bought were britney spears newest...2007 addition, (which I am going to take back.....it seems to smell different on paper than on me) and "diamonds" by giorgio armani...a very light fragrance. So have any of you people tried these fragrances???
If NOT......What is your favorite PERFUME??? or COLOGNE??? :)
My all time favorite is "HOT COUTURE" by Givenche :P
Thanks !!
WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE PERFUME/COLOGNE???? I just bought Azuree Soleil tonight and it smells great.....yours?
Mine are (in order of preference)
1. Givenche Organza Indecence (discontinued but I stocked up)
2. Jean Paul Gaultier Classique
3. Burberry Brit
4. Giorgio Armani Sensi
Reply:i love 'catsuit'
its cheap but it smells really really lovely
Reply:lacoste red cologne
Reply:i like sweet p from the mall. god, that stuff smells absolutely amazing!!!
Reply:i just bought the new marc jacobs "daisy" perfume. it smells so good!
Reply:davidoff collection
Reply:Armani Mania
Reply:I don't really have an expensive taste when it comes to perfume, but I do love a really nice fragrance. My favorite is white cherry blossom from Bath and Body. If you have not smelled it, you need to. I love it. I always get compliments on how good I smell. I get even more when people find out the price.
Reply:Chance by Channel!
Reply:red by gorgio
Reply:L'Eau d'Issey by Issey Miyake
If NOT......What is your favorite PERFUME??? or COLOGNE??? :)
My all time favorite is "HOT COUTURE" by Givenche :P
Thanks !!
WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE PERFUME/COLOGNE???? I just bought Azuree Soleil tonight and it smells great.....yours?
Mine are (in order of preference)
1. Givenche Organza Indecence (discontinued but I stocked up)
2. Jean Paul Gaultier Classique
3. Burberry Brit
4. Giorgio Armani Sensi
Reply:i love 'catsuit'
its cheap but it smells really really lovely
Reply:lacoste red cologne
Reply:i like sweet p from the mall. god, that stuff smells absolutely amazing!!!
Reply:i just bought the new marc jacobs "daisy" perfume. it smells so good!
Reply:davidoff collection
Reply:Armani Mania
Reply:I don't really have an expensive taste when it comes to perfume, but I do love a really nice fragrance. My favorite is white cherry blossom from Bath and Body. If you have not smelled it, you need to. I love it. I always get compliments on how good I smell. I get even more when people find out the price.
Reply:Chance by Channel!
Reply:red by gorgio
Reply:L'Eau d'Issey by Issey Miyake
Build over existing retaining wall?
We have a cinder block wall about 50 feet long by 3-4 feet high as a retainer. The wall has been leaning forward for several years. We talked to our landscape person and he said he could put a river rock retainer with concrete over the existing cinder block wall to hold the old wall in place and give it some opposing resistance. The river rock retainer will also be dug down 1 or 1 1/2 feet with under the ground foundation. We went to his house and he showed that he did it with his old cinder block wall and it looks incredible. In your opinion, do you think that this is okay to do. Is there anything we should make sure of before we do this? We dont want to spend 20K ripping the old one out when we could just retain this one with the new river rock wall. Also, the wall had a bunch of oleanders on it and other trees which we are having taken out as we speak.
Build over existing retaining wall?
My Grandfather with my brothers help built over a retaining wall. At the base they made it about 3 feet thick then tapered it thinner as it went up. We live in Earthquake prone California. The building inspector said it would take a quake large enough to level the entire town before that wall could ever sustain damage.
Reply:The wall was built in 1965-in San Fernando, CA. and was not damaged in the 1971 earthquake centered in Sylmar (2 miles away) or the 1994 Northridge quake. It is still doing the job with no damage to this date. Report It
Reply:sounds like he know what he's doing.
Reply:I believe that this could be done and have a fine result. You just make certain that your contractor is licensed and insured.
boots
Build over existing retaining wall?
My Grandfather with my brothers help built over a retaining wall. At the base they made it about 3 feet thick then tapered it thinner as it went up. We live in Earthquake prone California. The building inspector said it would take a quake large enough to level the entire town before that wall could ever sustain damage.
Reply:The wall was built in 1965-in San Fernando, CA. and was not damaged in the 1971 earthquake centered in Sylmar (2 miles away) or the 1994 Northridge quake. It is still doing the job with no damage to this date. Report It
Reply:sounds like he know what he's doing.
Reply:I believe that this could be done and have a fine result. You just make certain that your contractor is licensed and insured.
boots
Ground cover ideas needed?
We just got done remodleing our pool area which involved hauling out a lot of river rock and getting rid of small palms around the pool to open it up. Now all we have is dirt.
My hubby doesn't want grass, too much maintenance. No fake grass, it's too expensive %26amp; the oleanders shedding would be messy. No gravel b/c it will hurt your feet barefoot.
He wants decomposed gravel - but I do not b/c it will still get muddy if it rains.
Any ideas out there?
Ground cover ideas needed?
Try about 4"- 6" of premium cypris mulch over a ground facric. Create a meandering pathway to the pool using cobblestones. The cobblestoned would actually be good for barefooting on because in many parts of the world, reflexology paths and “barefoot parks” are becoming very popular because they offer feet a chance to experience varieties of textured surfaces. In addition to biomechanical advantages of regular barefoot exercising, many holistic health practitioners believe the tactile stimulation underfoot while walking barefoot on natural surfaces has positive effects on body, mind and spirit.
Reply:Mexican heather is a great ground covering and grows hearty with very little care..spreads nice and are small plants with tons of little purple/pinkish flowers on it..alot of malls use these for thier landscaping..
http://aggie-horticulture.tamu.edu/arans...
http://www.bonnieplants.com/Default.aspx...
Reply:carpet of snow ground cover
stays close to the ground like ivy and has thousand of flowers
comes in white,pink and red
chokes out weeds and grows fast [Ohio]
Reply:I love my bugelweed (ajuga reptans)...it's hardy....comes back each year...has great color....and grows without much maintenance!
This year I got Lamium Maculatum in Beacon Silver....ooooh, it's very pretty and needs little care also...
They both bloom in purple and are perenials...
Reply:If you were to put down some landscaping fabric around the pool than take some bags of leveling sand poured out over the fabric. The out come will be that the sand shouldn't wash away if you boarder it, you'll have no weeds and your feet won't hurt. Maintence free
Reply:These are the ground covers on my property. I live in Zone 7.
1. Vinca. I have periwinkle vinca. http://www.forde-nursery.com/images/pere... http://tncweeds.ucdavis.edu/esadocs/vinc... varieties ike sun, some like shade.
2. Monkey grass, mondo grass, liriope (call it what you want!). Many different colors, sizes, sun/shade. http://www.hsv-life.com/house/landscape/... Can be planted thinly or thickly. I interperse mine with small boulders for more interest.
3. Ajuga. Shade plant, so may not be suitable. Spreads rapidly. http://www.evergreennurseryinc.net/plant... http://www.danielleblog.com/archives/aju...
In addition, the following website is an excellent source for ground covers: http://pubs.caes.uga.edu/caespubs/pubcd/...
Reply:I really like Mondo grass (Ophiopogon species). It can get expensive in large plantings, but you never have to cut it. You didn't say how much sun you have or how much foot traffic the area will take. Mondo is tolerant of foot traffic once it is established. Other ground covers are pachysandra, liriope, ajuga, and vinca minor. These aren't as good for traffic areas.
Reply:You can do a outdoor tile all around it.
My hubby doesn't want grass, too much maintenance. No fake grass, it's too expensive %26amp; the oleanders shedding would be messy. No gravel b/c it will hurt your feet barefoot.
He wants decomposed gravel - but I do not b/c it will still get muddy if it rains.
Any ideas out there?
Ground cover ideas needed?
Try about 4"- 6" of premium cypris mulch over a ground facric. Create a meandering pathway to the pool using cobblestones. The cobblestoned would actually be good for barefooting on because in many parts of the world, reflexology paths and “barefoot parks” are becoming very popular because they offer feet a chance to experience varieties of textured surfaces. In addition to biomechanical advantages of regular barefoot exercising, many holistic health practitioners believe the tactile stimulation underfoot while walking barefoot on natural surfaces has positive effects on body, mind and spirit.
Reply:Mexican heather is a great ground covering and grows hearty with very little care..spreads nice and are small plants with tons of little purple/pinkish flowers on it..alot of malls use these for thier landscaping..
http://aggie-horticulture.tamu.edu/arans...
http://www.bonnieplants.com/Default.aspx...
Reply:carpet of snow ground cover
stays close to the ground like ivy and has thousand of flowers
comes in white,pink and red
chokes out weeds and grows fast [Ohio]
Reply:I love my bugelweed (ajuga reptans)...it's hardy....comes back each year...has great color....and grows without much maintenance!
This year I got Lamium Maculatum in Beacon Silver....ooooh, it's very pretty and needs little care also...
They both bloom in purple and are perenials...
Reply:If you were to put down some landscaping fabric around the pool than take some bags of leveling sand poured out over the fabric. The out come will be that the sand shouldn't wash away if you boarder it, you'll have no weeds and your feet won't hurt. Maintence free
Reply:These are the ground covers on my property. I live in Zone 7.
1. Vinca. I have periwinkle vinca. http://www.forde-nursery.com/images/pere... http://tncweeds.ucdavis.edu/esadocs/vinc... varieties ike sun, some like shade.
2. Monkey grass, mondo grass, liriope (call it what you want!). Many different colors, sizes, sun/shade. http://www.hsv-life.com/house/landscape/... Can be planted thinly or thickly. I interperse mine with small boulders for more interest.
3. Ajuga. Shade plant, so may not be suitable. Spreads rapidly. http://www.evergreennurseryinc.net/plant... http://www.danielleblog.com/archives/aju...
In addition, the following website is an excellent source for ground covers: http://pubs.caes.uga.edu/caespubs/pubcd/...
Reply:I really like Mondo grass (Ophiopogon species). It can get expensive in large plantings, but you never have to cut it. You didn't say how much sun you have or how much foot traffic the area will take. Mondo is tolerant of foot traffic once it is established. Other ground covers are pachysandra, liriope, ajuga, and vinca minor. These aren't as good for traffic areas.
Reply:You can do a outdoor tile all around it.
Drug addict/eating disordered friend?
I've known this girl for a few years and we haven't talked much in the past few years because of a very complicated sitution but she does every type of drug except meth and has been in and out of rehab two times for an eating disorder and ate white oleanders to get out one of the seven times
she just doesn't have a reason to live and i wish i could give her one but life pretty much sucks especially for her, she had it pretty rough growing up, no longer has a college fund because of rehab and has failed ninth grade a few times because of absences anyway
but im talking to her and i suppose just giving her a semi-good influence helps but i would like some imput in what advice i could give her in getting clean, obviously normal programs don't help, shes been on methadone and lithium and just uses them as a supplement to her habits
what can i say to help her? why shouldn't she stay on them honestly? when you think about it. she doesn't care if she dies and can't handle pain
Drug addict/eating disordered friend?
I wish there was a good answer for your question. I wish there was some magical thing you could say to someone you love and they would quit hurting themselves. Just continue to be her friend and let her know you are their for her if and when she chooses to get help. My sister was a cocaine and heroin addict she died last year from an overdose of cocaine before she died she was in and out of rehabs at one point (when she was sober) she wrote a poem about her addiction. It is a really good poem it is posted on her website http://www.ken.malott.com/bridget/bridge... . You can try showing her this website and this poem if you want.My sister was also bipolar and used street drugs to self medicate. ufourtantley if your friend doesn't stop she will end up dead. Good Luck. I know first hand how hard it is to watch someone you love kill themselves.
Reply:unfortunately drug addiction and recovery is really a lonesome disease, no one can really pull you up but you. Make sure she has access to people who have dealt with addiction themselves and just be there as a friend when she needs one. If you get too deeply involved with her recovery and she slips she will take you down a bit too.
Reply:You can't change people. It is her life and her choices.
Reply:I think that all you can do is be there for her. It's hard to understand a person's motivations for the way they live, and there is no textbook answer because every person is unique. You maybe could find a group like Codependent Anonymous, or al-anon that could give you a little bit of insight. Also, try your local county mental health unit. They may have a counselor that can steer you in the right direction.
What you have to remember is this-In your head, you are being a good influence, but maybe not in hers. I've been in similar situations (both sides of it) and sometimes the stability that you offer actually enables this kind of lifestyle. I did some stupid things when I was young, and I used people that thought they were being my friends by trying to be a good influence. Now that I've grown up, I can see what was going on, and see when somebody is using me for a place to stay, or a meal, or somewhere to go hide for a while. I kindly but firmly let these people know that I am here for them, but won't be taken advantage of.
I am glad that you are trying to help your friend, but it is a rocky path that you are on, so please get professional advice.
Reply:Yeah! I two did the drug thing but you know what? YOUR FRIEND WILL NEVER AND I MEAN NEVER FIND HAPPINESS AND RELEASE FOR PAIN THAT WAY!!!!!!!!!
I found that I did the drug thing and the next day and the many days and months after that I realized that my problems in life WHERE STILL THERE!? I would first suggest to you to tell your friend to be truthful about her situation and find a drug de-tox place somewhere in your own town. She is going to find that this is pure hell but, after de-tox she is going to find it makes a big difference! Second, Know she probably feels her Life doesn't have a purpose probably because of some of the problems she has in countered in her past! I believe after she goes thou de-tox it would be important to ask her if she would be willing to see a priest or a christian counselor about her painful past. I think that she needs to start forgiving all of the people that have hurt her and renounce them in Jesus name! A priest or some Church's even have christian counselors that would be able to assist you and her. You would make the calls to some of the Church's in your area to see if they offer christian counseling services. But first she has to work herself off the drugs and only then if she is honest about all the people that hurt her and wants to release her pain from her past only then would I call some of the Church's. I tell you what progress will she make by just stays in her house or other peoples houses, feeling sorry for herself and getting high!? Ask her does she want a REAL HIGH!? Then I challenge her to get HIGH ON THE HOLY SPIRIT OF JESUS CHRIST!!!!!! I challenge her to make something out of her life and be a role model to someone!First before I say anything more I would like to recommend two books to you for her for finding purpose in your life! (After of course she decides drugs aren't the best way to live and she chooses to make something out of her life.) I recommend reading: 1. The Purpose Driven Life. by Rick Warren 2002 and 2. Your Best Life Now by Joel Osteen 2004. Yes! I have been though depression and drugs! She got to understand there is no easy way out even if she decides to end her life. I also believe the reason she feels so depressed and she needs drugs is because her heart is feeling that something is missing. I believe that something is the love of God and Jesus Christ! The Bible says that you were created to have a fellowship with God, and to have Him at the center of your life, NOT DRUGS!. Did your friend know God loves her and values her! "God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son Jesus, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life."(John 3:16)Know apart from Jesus Christ, the Bible tells us, we are "harassed and helpless, like sheep with out a shepherd" (Matt 9:36). But God loves us, and one reason he has allowed her to have this feeling of emptiness in her heart is that He loves her and wants her to seek him and have a relationship with him. No matter how hard we try or what means we use--material possessions, money, pleasure, drugs, or whatever--the emptiness is still there. The thing is that if you let your emptiness go this leads into depression AND MORE DRUG USE! How do I know this? Because I have dealt with that empty feeling, life with no purpose or meaning and eventually depression and drugs. The three things that really turned my life around was: 1. Knowing that God and Jesus Loved me and I was valued! 2. Knowing I had people on my side at church, in my social life and in my family that cared about me! and 3. I had to get myself out of the atmosphere that I was in! When you put yourself in line with what God has for you, then you will see yourself back with a renewed joy! That also means changing the atmosphere were she buys her drugs and where she uses her drugs! I would not be telling her this if I had not experienced what she feels for myself! Know down inside her, she is really looking for love and happiness but she will never find it the way she is living right now. God created her, and God loves her. His only Son, Jesus Christ, loved her so much that he gave His life on the cross so she could be saved and break free from in perfectness, sin and this empty feeling to become a child of God. When you accept Jesus Christ into your life, something wonderful and supernatural happens. God Himself comes to dwell within you! You become part of His family, and you can know the joy of His presence every day. The Bible says: "Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you" (Hebrews 13:5). She may ask "where was God in the my bad times in my life!". I tell you He was there! The fact of the matter is that we all make bad choices in life, or others make bad choices in life! But the thing is that we don't have to live like that for the future! As a christian I know that Church is a excellent place to meet people that might of once felt the way your friend does now with no purpose and they might tell her how they now live for Jesus and how they have found that purpose like me. Not only at church service but a lot of church's have activities like support groups, single events and small groups like bible study! Not only will she be meeting new people and developing relationships with them, she will be also be developing a relationship with God and Jesus by learning what the word of God (the Bible) has to offer her in her life. The fact of the matter is she needs to put herself in a new atmosphere with de-tox,forgiveness and by building a personal relationship with God! I battled though depression and drugs! So, I felt like life was just one, big black, end less, tunnel that I felt so alone and that no one valued me and my only release from anxiety was drugs! Which is not true! I later found out that I was valued! I was valued by Jesus because he gave his life on the cross for me! and in essence I was carrying my own cross and Jesus said "let me carry that for a while and you put your faith in me and I will bring you hope for the future and a future partner!" You know what? He did! Now am happily married to the woman of my dreams! I will be praying for you and your friend! I would encourage you if you know Jesus to pray for your friend that she may come to realize that she doesn't want to live life like this! I pray that one day she might find happiness and love in a purpose filled life in Jesus! May God Bless you and your friend! In Jesus Name Amen
Reply:Maybe your friend should be checked for a bipolar disorder or tested for depression. If this is part of the problem, they can put her on meds to help. There is also a drug that can be given to her to help her so she can't get high off of certain drugs.
Reply:You are very much describing a person I know, a drug addict girl. Did constantly pretty much every single drug except heroin n meth. Cocaine + pills was daily used, weighed 85 pounds... in and out of rehab and mental institututions her whole life... She died 3 weeks ago of an overdose. She took oxycotton and cocaine (in huge amounts btw, she would pretty much snort 1 gram just in one line), and this time she died.
I believe that sometimes you just can't change people like that.
Reply:if you are still young, harm reduction should not be an option. She can recover with some intensive treatment and support from very good friends like you. You could try to help her uncover any past issue that cintribute to drug abuse.
Reply:wow. im sooo sorry to hear about your friend. i honestly dont know the answer to your question and i dont think anyone else will on this site.. all i can say is ill pray for u and her.
honestly. shes the only person who can help herself now.. just be there along the way.. kinda like a shoulder to cry on. but if u ever feel too stressed over her problems take a few minute breather and just continue. its basically all u can do.
Reply:tell her how much you care about her and how stubburn it would be to continue her habbits.
she just doesn't have a reason to live and i wish i could give her one but life pretty much sucks especially for her, she had it pretty rough growing up, no longer has a college fund because of rehab and has failed ninth grade a few times because of absences anyway
but im talking to her and i suppose just giving her a semi-good influence helps but i would like some imput in what advice i could give her in getting clean, obviously normal programs don't help, shes been on methadone and lithium and just uses them as a supplement to her habits
what can i say to help her? why shouldn't she stay on them honestly? when you think about it. she doesn't care if she dies and can't handle pain
Drug addict/eating disordered friend?
I wish there was a good answer for your question. I wish there was some magical thing you could say to someone you love and they would quit hurting themselves. Just continue to be her friend and let her know you are their for her if and when she chooses to get help. My sister was a cocaine and heroin addict she died last year from an overdose of cocaine before she died she was in and out of rehabs at one point (when she was sober) she wrote a poem about her addiction. It is a really good poem it is posted on her website http://www.ken.malott.com/bridget/bridge... . You can try showing her this website and this poem if you want.My sister was also bipolar and used street drugs to self medicate. ufourtantley if your friend doesn't stop she will end up dead. Good Luck. I know first hand how hard it is to watch someone you love kill themselves.
Reply:unfortunately drug addiction and recovery is really a lonesome disease, no one can really pull you up but you. Make sure she has access to people who have dealt with addiction themselves and just be there as a friend when she needs one. If you get too deeply involved with her recovery and she slips she will take you down a bit too.
Reply:You can't change people. It is her life and her choices.
Reply:I think that all you can do is be there for her. It's hard to understand a person's motivations for the way they live, and there is no textbook answer because every person is unique. You maybe could find a group like Codependent Anonymous, or al-anon that could give you a little bit of insight. Also, try your local county mental health unit. They may have a counselor that can steer you in the right direction.
What you have to remember is this-In your head, you are being a good influence, but maybe not in hers. I've been in similar situations (both sides of it) and sometimes the stability that you offer actually enables this kind of lifestyle. I did some stupid things when I was young, and I used people that thought they were being my friends by trying to be a good influence. Now that I've grown up, I can see what was going on, and see when somebody is using me for a place to stay, or a meal, or somewhere to go hide for a while. I kindly but firmly let these people know that I am here for them, but won't be taken advantage of.
I am glad that you are trying to help your friend, but it is a rocky path that you are on, so please get professional advice.
Reply:Yeah! I two did the drug thing but you know what? YOUR FRIEND WILL NEVER AND I MEAN NEVER FIND HAPPINESS AND RELEASE FOR PAIN THAT WAY!!!!!!!!!
I found that I did the drug thing and the next day and the many days and months after that I realized that my problems in life WHERE STILL THERE!? I would first suggest to you to tell your friend to be truthful about her situation and find a drug de-tox place somewhere in your own town. She is going to find that this is pure hell but, after de-tox she is going to find it makes a big difference! Second, Know she probably feels her Life doesn't have a purpose probably because of some of the problems she has in countered in her past! I believe after she goes thou de-tox it would be important to ask her if she would be willing to see a priest or a christian counselor about her painful past. I think that she needs to start forgiving all of the people that have hurt her and renounce them in Jesus name! A priest or some Church's even have christian counselors that would be able to assist you and her. You would make the calls to some of the Church's in your area to see if they offer christian counseling services. But first she has to work herself off the drugs and only then if she is honest about all the people that hurt her and wants to release her pain from her past only then would I call some of the Church's. I tell you what progress will she make by just stays in her house or other peoples houses, feeling sorry for herself and getting high!? Ask her does she want a REAL HIGH!? Then I challenge her to get HIGH ON THE HOLY SPIRIT OF JESUS CHRIST!!!!!! I challenge her to make something out of her life and be a role model to someone!First before I say anything more I would like to recommend two books to you for her for finding purpose in your life! (After of course she decides drugs aren't the best way to live and she chooses to make something out of her life.) I recommend reading: 1. The Purpose Driven Life. by Rick Warren 2002 and 2. Your Best Life Now by Joel Osteen 2004. Yes! I have been though depression and drugs! She got to understand there is no easy way out even if she decides to end her life. I also believe the reason she feels so depressed and she needs drugs is because her heart is feeling that something is missing. I believe that something is the love of God and Jesus Christ! The Bible says that you were created to have a fellowship with God, and to have Him at the center of your life, NOT DRUGS!. Did your friend know God loves her and values her! "God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son Jesus, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life."(John 3:16)Know apart from Jesus Christ, the Bible tells us, we are "harassed and helpless, like sheep with out a shepherd" (Matt 9:36). But God loves us, and one reason he has allowed her to have this feeling of emptiness in her heart is that He loves her and wants her to seek him and have a relationship with him. No matter how hard we try or what means we use--material possessions, money, pleasure, drugs, or whatever--the emptiness is still there. The thing is that if you let your emptiness go this leads into depression AND MORE DRUG USE! How do I know this? Because I have dealt with that empty feeling, life with no purpose or meaning and eventually depression and drugs. The three things that really turned my life around was: 1. Knowing that God and Jesus Loved me and I was valued! 2. Knowing I had people on my side at church, in my social life and in my family that cared about me! and 3. I had to get myself out of the atmosphere that I was in! When you put yourself in line with what God has for you, then you will see yourself back with a renewed joy! That also means changing the atmosphere were she buys her drugs and where she uses her drugs! I would not be telling her this if I had not experienced what she feels for myself! Know down inside her, she is really looking for love and happiness but she will never find it the way she is living right now. God created her, and God loves her. His only Son, Jesus Christ, loved her so much that he gave His life on the cross so she could be saved and break free from in perfectness, sin and this empty feeling to become a child of God. When you accept Jesus Christ into your life, something wonderful and supernatural happens. God Himself comes to dwell within you! You become part of His family, and you can know the joy of His presence every day. The Bible says: "Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you" (Hebrews 13:5). She may ask "where was God in the my bad times in my life!". I tell you He was there! The fact of the matter is that we all make bad choices in life, or others make bad choices in life! But the thing is that we don't have to live like that for the future! As a christian I know that Church is a excellent place to meet people that might of once felt the way your friend does now with no purpose and they might tell her how they now live for Jesus and how they have found that purpose like me. Not only at church service but a lot of church's have activities like support groups, single events and small groups like bible study! Not only will she be meeting new people and developing relationships with them, she will be also be developing a relationship with God and Jesus by learning what the word of God (the Bible) has to offer her in her life. The fact of the matter is she needs to put herself in a new atmosphere with de-tox,forgiveness and by building a personal relationship with God! I battled though depression and drugs! So, I felt like life was just one, big black, end less, tunnel that I felt so alone and that no one valued me and my only release from anxiety was drugs! Which is not true! I later found out that I was valued! I was valued by Jesus because he gave his life on the cross for me! and in essence I was carrying my own cross and Jesus said "let me carry that for a while and you put your faith in me and I will bring you hope for the future and a future partner!" You know what? He did! Now am happily married to the woman of my dreams! I will be praying for you and your friend! I would encourage you if you know Jesus to pray for your friend that she may come to realize that she doesn't want to live life like this! I pray that one day she might find happiness and love in a purpose filled life in Jesus! May God Bless you and your friend! In Jesus Name Amen
Reply:Maybe your friend should be checked for a bipolar disorder or tested for depression. If this is part of the problem, they can put her on meds to help. There is also a drug that can be given to her to help her so she can't get high off of certain drugs.
Reply:You are very much describing a person I know, a drug addict girl. Did constantly pretty much every single drug except heroin n meth. Cocaine + pills was daily used, weighed 85 pounds... in and out of rehab and mental institututions her whole life... She died 3 weeks ago of an overdose. She took oxycotton and cocaine (in huge amounts btw, she would pretty much snort 1 gram just in one line), and this time she died.
I believe that sometimes you just can't change people like that.
Reply:if you are still young, harm reduction should not be an option. She can recover with some intensive treatment and support from very good friends like you. You could try to help her uncover any past issue that cintribute to drug abuse.
Reply:wow. im sooo sorry to hear about your friend. i honestly dont know the answer to your question and i dont think anyone else will on this site.. all i can say is ill pray for u and her.
honestly. shes the only person who can help herself now.. just be there along the way.. kinda like a shoulder to cry on. but if u ever feel too stressed over her problems take a few minute breather and just continue. its basically all u can do.
Reply:tell her how much you care about her and how stubburn it would be to continue her habbits.
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